I know a bunch of you shippers are so glad to hear that Harley Quinn is in a non-monogamous relationship with Poison Ivy. While a part of me was kind of blasé about it, another part of me could only laugh his fat ass off. Not because there’s anything particularly humorous about the situation, but because DC slipped a big one past everyone’s noses, and no one sneezed.
Check the wording from DC: “They are girlfriends without the jealousy of monogamy.” So not only is this relationship homosexual, but it’s non-standard-conforming. Is it an open relationship? Is there a third party involved? No clue, really. However, is that our business? Probably not, but dammit, people want to know anyway.
With the characters involved, my money’s on an open relationship. I’ve had a few of those in my day. Works really well, but only if you got the right people, which can be a bitch. However, the point I’m trying to make is DC, a company known for screwing over anything that isn’t fit for a GOP convention, is giving a bit of the finger to the mainstream view of a relationship as a binary compound. It’s refreshing. It was also a long time coming.
Let’s get the legal bullshit out of the way: polygamy is illegal. However, polyamory is not, unless you live in one of those states that thinks “One Nation, Under God” was always in the Pledge of Allegiance, and has an unhealthy number of churches that were once someone’s trailer. You can love as many people as you can (and quite frankly, you SHOULD!), but you can only marry once. I guess they didn’t like the idea of people being TOO happy, right?
That’s the point, right there, in that last paragraph: You should love as many people as you can. I don’t mean fucking them, I mean that emotional bond that transcends physicality and changes who you are, deep down to the core. Love is not finite, nor should it be bound to any one person. In my mind, the real reason we exist is to love one another. Be it as friend, kin, or lover, our goal should be to spread that feeling, and share in it. In the same vein, our goal should be to support others in that journey, as well.
Even if they are villains, don’t they deserve happiness within the construct that is their story? Sure, in a sane world, they’d have both probably been given the chair or just gotten shot by a cop with an itchy trigger finger. But does that mean they have no right to be happy? Or that we have right to deny them, because it sits outside of our bullshit, made up 2-people-to-a-relationship rule?
I’m liking what DC has done, here, and I find it funny that the fact they were eschewing the “traditional” relationship structure, and people just didn’t seem to notice. Once they saw “Harley and Ivy are a couple!” their brains frosted over to the fact they were being given a more progressive tidbit. I have to admit, I had figured Harley and Ivy were out a long time ago, so I was confused by the announcement for a moment. Then I caught on to the bigger part, and all I could do was feel vindicated, in a way. I’d lived as an outcast for the non-monogamous part of my life, as well. But now DC has said “Hey, we realize this exists, and here’s some semi-tangible support.”
It doesn’t make me forgive them for killing off Batwoman’s girlfriend over the potential (as in NOT FUCKING REALIZED) backlash over the impending nuptials between them.
Nor does it make me forgive them for un-crippling Batgirl, and thus making her more broken than ever.
And most of all, being that this is DC, I fully expect to have to write another piece in a year or two, giving them a great big finger for retconning all this in their next big event comic, or giving the bullshit excuse that the Joker batted his eyelashes and Harley came running.
DC, do something right, for once. Let a change for the positive stay. Maybe we’ll all get lucky, and some of these prudes will actually open their minds to a new idea, for once.